FQS 4(3) Döring & Dietmar: Mediated Communication in Couple ::
Abstract: A growing part of communication in couple relationships involves technical . Attachment styles determine how partners relate to each other,
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Just because someone is listening to me, I dont assume that they got the communication that I sent. Neither should you.
So after I say something, I have created the habit of asking my listener what s/he heard from me. I also like to check in on my own perceptions about what Ive heard from someone.
Rather than assuming that my perceptions about what other people mean when they say something are accurate, Ive gotten into the practice of asking if what I heard was what they meant to communicate to me.
Heres one great example:
I had assumed for a while that when my lover didnt ask for my support (because I certainly ask for his) that it was because he didnt think I had anything to give him. I was really upset about this story I was telling myself and it was affecting how I related to him. I found that I resented asking for his support, and did everything in my power to avoid it. I felt awful because it thwarted my natural inclination to ask. But he wouldnt ask me… It was a viscous circle.
Close Encounters: Communication in Relationships - Google Books Result::
href=http://books.google.com/books?id=8fH9C_tVcEgC&pg=PA222&lpg=PA222&dq=relationship+communication+how+couples+perceive+each+other&source=web&ots=52c9aFT35w&sig=vdQyFV2TZQ4ALAon82oENXfeZiQ&hl=en class=l onmousedown=return clk(this.href,,,res,45,)>Close Encounters: Communication in Relationships - Google Books Resultby Laura K. Guerrero, Peter A. Andersen, Walid A. Afifi - 2007 - Language Arts & Disciplines - 354 pagesCouples who perceive equity also tend to report more commitment to their relationships (Crawford et al., 2003). Communication patterns may contribute to the
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Couples' support provision during illness: the role of perceived ::
Couples who are able to meet each others' emotional needs may experience better PERCEIVED EMOTIONAL RESPONSIVENESS Within the marital relationship,
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When I finally checked in and asked Ive had the feeling that you dont ask me for help because you dont think I have anything to offer you. Is that accurate with what is happening for you? He laughed. Absolutely not, he said. I just cant seem to ask. Its my issue. I really value your help, he said.
How Perceptions Affect Our Relationships - Communication ::
The same is true in how we perceive each other in our relationships. The most common cause of misperceptions in relationships come from poor communication,
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Lately weve been working with asking each other what we RECEIVE in our communications and its fascinating how much of what is SENT is altered by way of how we hear things. He could say I dont want to talk about it, and I will hear You dont want to talk to me. We then have an opportunity to clarify and better understand how each of us uses language.
The Ear of My Heart » Blog Archive » Cultural Use of Communication ::
but for deaf couple rathered to sit across from each other for communication easier instead of turning the *stiffed* heads to the side all the time and had
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IFHOH Web - Sexuality and Intimacy with Hearing Loss::
People, circumstances and relationships change, but our commitments to each other do not always take that simple fact into consideration. Consider a couple
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If you use the words sense, feel or intuit, you let your partner know Look, this is a perception.
No one wants to be TOLD how he or she is. I sense youre angry, is an opening. Youre angry, is a dead end. Then simply ask, Is that accurate? Does that resonate with you? Is that whats going on for you?
It feels great to have someone care enough to really get it right and to be able to reflect your communication back to you with accuracy.
Perception Checking:
Ask who youre talking to reflect back to you what s/he heard. If what you had hoped to send and what they received are different, youve got a place to start from to clear up any misconceptions and get yourselves both on the same page.
After someone says something to you, reflect back to him or her what youve heard. Discover if it matches. If it doesnt it gives you both the chance to make sure that the message thats being sent is the one youre getting.
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