Sex and Its Delight

September 6, 2008

Is there anything common between a queen and her maid? One thing - both are sisters under the skin. It means that both are women and thus have similar sexual urges. Their bodies may be dissimilar but their sexual desires are similar. Yet, this is a generalisation because desires vary from person to person. We think of similarity because the equipment is same in every case. This leads us to a fallacy that the sex act which pleases one is sure to please another too. Our sexual responses have much in common but its wrong to suppose that lovemaking methods evoke the same response in every person.

Women differ vastly in this respect. Some delight in special little play-tricks like nibbling of the neck while others may be put off by it. What lies between the difference in likes and dislikes? Is it possible to learn, know ones partners special likes? It is. Its important, too. They are there for the partner to discover.

Anatomy does play a role. Experience plays a bigger role. Spouses engaging in the sex act at a given point of time have a combination of several experiences. For both, emotional tones emanating from their past life matter as does the atmosphere of the moment. Equally important is the attitude of the one towards the other. These factors either spark their desires or de-spark it.

EARLY CLIMAX - AN ISSUE

Many wives are left cold by the sex act, no matter how prolonged it happens to be. If the wife is not stimulated by the way she wants or needs, the act does not thrill her as no sensations dart along her nerve pathways from the skin surface.

Some wives want to merge with their husbands body during lovemaking. They do not have a clear sense of their own body during the sex act. Such women need a sense of total togetherness for full satisfaction.

Oral sex in some marriages may erect an emotional barrier. The husband likes fellatio, the wife may not. The problem is not insoluble. Reading together an authoritative book like Ideal Marriage can untie the knotty problem. The practice just before intercourse can prolong it - though, in some cases, it may hasten the come-on. Frequent practice desensitises the glands and eventually enhances pleasure of the spouses.

A husband eager to provide pleasure to his wife has no qualms in going down on her. Some wives dither because they think that their precious parts may emit an odour which puts off the husband. They should heed two points. One, the aroused husband does not pay attention to such a hindrance. He is a possessed by passion. He seeks delights and is eager to give it to his wife. Two, once the wife knows that he likes going down, she can take care of it with meticulous hygienic care making herself more sexually attractive. Such steps as cleanliness enhance her sex appeal.

Women are fed on false notions which are passed on to them by her easy or ill-informed friends and older relatives. Thus, they begin to look upon this practice as ugly, dirty and unwholesome. They forget that anything which happens between a loving husband and wife in the privacy of their bedroom can be unwholesome or dirty.

A woman must know that sex organs are like other parts of her body. She has no qualms if the husband nicks or licks her hand or bosom. Then why this fuss about her sex organ? What a wife thinks is odour may be scent to the husband. It may actually drive him to the intensity of desire. Whatever scent there may be rapidly becomes stimulating by itself because of its association with sexual pleasures.

According to a study, there are substances in the vagina which are chemically similar to scents produced by other female species capable of inducing sexual arousal in a man.

THE SEDUCING ACT

There is a good deal of misunderstanding about the eroticism of breasts. Most women get a tingling sensation when their nipples are touched, licked or pressed. Some may experience a slight pain. Usually, the nipple becomes erect and is responsible for ravishing sensations racing through her body.

Others derive a delightful sensuous feeling when their bosom is caressed and kneaded. They are overjoyed that their husbands find their breasts beautiful and the most ornamental parts of their anatomy.

That they want the pair to be firm and attractive aided by a variety of products sold in the market for this purpose. The staggering variety of bras available also is a significant pointer in this direction.

Whatever men may say, the fact is that they do nurse a fetish about breasts - the seat of innocence and pure delight. A sensible wife knows it and makes full use of it for mutual delights.

Why are men so enamoured by and dwell on breasts? The basic reason is that breasts are linked with youth. They grow not in infancy but in a womans youth. Secondly, in most cases, it excites the woman whose feedback in such that the husbands excitement is increased by the wifes. Another reason men take pleasure in her pair is because the rule is to keep them covered. Exposure is a gesture of: I love you.

Husbands are hung up on breasts. They not only find delight in them but despair if the pair is not ample. A full bosom is considered a mark of a full woman. Couples should learn what each likes about breast stimulation by reading and more by communication during lovemaking. Define the ways each partner gets the maximum delight.

Explore more ways. Dont hesitate telling your partner what you like and want. Ask for it. Kiss me here. Nick me there. And so on. Communication and articulation on the wifes part stimulates the husband. Briefly, use your imagination and ingenuity to discover your partners hidden desires. Open up your own. Both of you can then use this knowledge to enrich your sensual delight.

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